De-Co-Date is a series of experimental events (some public and some on invitation) in which we decode the diverse shifting values and norms of our love, sex and friendship behaviour in reflection to the societal development in the present, the past and the future. Each experiment will be a new approach of getting together for discourse, sometimes in comfort and sometimes in discomfort.
Want to watch a movie together?
We will dim the light, pass the popcorn and watch selected youtube videos of Esther Perel and Eva Illouz (info below). These videos are about our love-relationship and sexual behaviour in times where abundance of choice, entertainment and possibilities take influence in our approach to this field of our everyday life. While watching feel free to pause the video at any time to shed your light on aspects you want to exchange about with others.
So, bring a lighter and a blanket. Let’s (de-co)-date!
Joes + Manon and Baltan Laboratories welcome you.
About the screened speakers:
Perel is a Belgian psychotherapist who has explored the tension between the need for security and the need for freedom in human relationships. Perel promoted the concept of Erotic Intelligence in her book Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, which has been translated into 24 languages.
With her book ‘Why Love Hurts’, Israeli sociologist Eva Illouz scored a bestselling success in 2012, establishing herself as an interpreter of modern love relationships and demonstrating the deficiencies of love in the era of capitalism. One of these deficiencies is that our fear of overlooking a potentially superior partner prevents us from committing to a steady relationship in the first place. In her new book, ‘Warum Liebe endet’ (‘Why Love Ends’), the sociologist examines how love relationships go wrong, resulting in a new ‘culture of lovelessness’.